Should You Take Your Man to Your OB Appointments?
Do you take your baby’s daddy to your pre-natal obstetrician appointments?
My husband was in denial that I was pregnant for the first two months. Then he felt uneasy about coming to a ‘woman’ thing. But I twisted his arm and made him come to my 4-month checkup and after that, he was happily there for every one.
I think guys should come to the appointments if they can. They may not be the pregnant one, but the appointments are as much for the baby as they are for the mom. Dad is as equally a parent as Mom, so he should be there if he wants to.
There’s some great benefits for Dad. They can meet the person who will be delivering their baby. They can learn more about your pregnancy, they can listen to the baby’s heartbeat, and feel a little more involved in the pregnancy and with the baby. It’s especially important if there are any complications, then Dad should be there.
I sort of wish my husband didn’t come to my OB appointments when my doctor asked me what I was eating, and he ratted me out about my jelly donut habit.
But I’m very glad he did come, and got involved with our baby so early, I think it helped him bond faster with our son when he was born. I also think it helped him get to grips with the idea that I would be giving birth, particularly the physical aspects of it.
What do you think? Do you think OB appointments are a private thing and you would feel uncomfortable with your man there? Or is he enthusiastic about coming with you?
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Kelsey says...
My husband came to just about all my prental appts. He was very supportive and wanted to be in the know. The one time he didn’t come, I got some upsetting news about some lab tests and called him sobbing! I really appreciated him being there. We’ve been together 13 years so there are no “embarrasment issues” or what have you. It’s very important the husband comes if there are to be questions about family history/genetics.
Kimberly says...
I don’t think of anything at my ob appointments as private, (he got me into this after all!)
and would be perfectly fine if my husband came to all of them, but we’ve found that by communicating with my doctor about which appointments are sort of the “big ones” we can keep my husband from taking time off work just to see the nurse and doctor measure my belly, take my blood pressure and pee in a cup. It’s not that his time is more valuable than mine or anything, but so many of my appointments are about 10 minutes of my doctor asking me if everything is okay, doing some perfunctory tests and me telling her everything is great. He definitely went to the first appointment, both ultrasounds and the genetic counseling appointment, and is planning to attend a couple as we get nearer the end. (I’m 31 weeks.) This seems fine to me as it would hurt my feelings if he didn’t came to any, but I’d almost feel guilty if he took time of work to come to them all.
renea says...
yes all dad should go so they can help out and see how there doing and hear there heartbeat and take a look at them with the mom does then they won’t be left out notting.