Comments on: My Midwife Is Spoiling Me http://blogs.babiesonline.com/pregnancy/my-midwife-is-spoiling-me/ News & Information about parenting, pregnancy, and Babies Online's services Thu, 18 Mar 2010 08:30:50 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Dawn http://blogs.babiesonline.com/pregnancy/my-midwife-is-spoiling-me/comment-page-1/#comment-8778 Dawn Tue, 22 Jul 2008 21:19:25 +0000 http://blogs.babiesonline.com/?p=3524#comment-8778 Hi, Beth, Thanks for the comment and I'm glad to be able to let you know you are most definitely not alone!! My (admittedly) favorite midwife in my group practice has a great phrase she uses after she asks if I have any questions... she says, "I know... you don't know what you don't know yet!" I don't know why, but that phrase is so full of wisdom, that it even makes me feel better when I *don't* have questions readily on the tip of my tongue. Also, after the glucose test I've learned... (kind of like in journalism) I can ask broad questions which will help my midwife figure out "what I don't know to ask." In other words, a simple thing such as "What can I expect from this test?" would have probably alleviated all my fears. I did that when trying to decide on a birthing method. I said, "Tell me what I need to know to decide between Bradley and Lamaze." The information she provided--and books she recommended--pointed me in the right direction to make a choice. Birth doesn't have to be "the doctor's way," and I think that is the most important thing for pregnant women to understand. Beth, I wish you good luck in finding a midwife next time around... if we move out of state before having our next child, it will be something we consider in our choices for relocation, maybe not a deal-breaker, but definitely a factor! Dawns last blog post..<a href="http://allcotmedia.blogspot.com/2008/06/90-minutes-in-morning.html">90 Minutes in the Morning</a> Hi, Beth,
Thanks for the comment and I’m glad to be able to let you know you are most definitely not alone!! My (admittedly) favorite midwife in my group practice has a great phrase she uses after she asks if I have any questions… she says, “I know… you don’t know what you don’t know yet!” I don’t know why, but that phrase is so full of wisdom, that it even makes me feel better when I *don’t* have questions readily on the tip of my tongue.

Also, after the glucose test I’ve learned… (kind of like in journalism) I can ask broad questions which will help my midwife figure out “what I don’t know to ask.” In other words, a simple thing such as “What can I expect from this test?” would have probably alleviated all my fears. I did that when trying to decide on a birthing method. I said, “Tell me what I need to know to decide between Bradley and Lamaze.” The information she provided–and books she recommended–pointed me in the right direction to make a choice.

Birth doesn’t have to be “the doctor’s way,” and I think that is the most important thing for pregnant women to understand.

Beth, I wish you good luck in finding a midwife next time around… if we move out of state before having our next child, it will be something we consider in our choices for relocation, maybe not a deal-breaker, but definitely a factor!

Dawns last blog post..90 Minutes in the Morning

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]]> By: Beth http://blogs.babiesonline.com/pregnancy/my-midwife-is-spoiling-me/comment-page-1/#comment-8757 Beth Mon, 21 Jul 2008 18:20:02 +0000 http://blogs.babiesonline.com/?p=3524#comment-8757 I am so glad that someone else feels the way I do! Most of my friends have only ever used a regular doctor so they don't seem to be bothered by the way they are handled. I was lucky enough to have a midwife with my first pregnancy and I was completly satisfied. I wasn't able to find a midwife that accepted my insurance this time (not close enough to me anyway) so I was forced to go to a regular OB. I had the same type of experience that you described and was not happy with it at all. I was spoiled the first time! I waited for at least an hour (sometimes 2 or more) at every single visit and then only saw the doctor for maybe 5 minutes. If this had been my first baby I would have been scared to death! They always asked me if I had any questions but never offered any information to me. What about the people who don't know what kinds of things to ask? Do they get the same 'in and out' treatment? I hope that there will be a midwife closer to me for my next children because I really would prefer not to use another regular OB. All in all, I was spoiled too and I think that every woman should at least meet with a midwife before they chose their permanent doc, they won't be disappointed :) I am so glad that someone else feels the way I do! Most of my friends have only ever used a regular doctor so they don’t seem to be bothered by the way they are handled. I was lucky enough to have a midwife with my first pregnancy and I was completly satisfied. I wasn’t able to find a midwife that accepted my insurance this time (not close enough to me anyway) so I was forced to go to a regular OB. I had the same type of experience that you described and was not happy with it at all. I was spoiled the first time! I waited for at least an hour (sometimes 2 or more) at every single visit and then only saw the doctor for maybe 5 minutes. If this had been my first baby I would have been scared to death! They always asked me if I had any questions but never offered any information to me. What about the people who don’t know what kinds of things to ask? Do they get the same ‘in and out’ treatment? I hope that there will be a midwife closer to me for my next children because I really would prefer not to use another regular OB. All in all, I was spoiled too and I think that every woman should at least meet with a midwife before they chose their permanent doc, they won’t be disappointed :)

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