Finding out Baby’s Gender
With my first pregnancy I was determined to keep the gender of the baby a secret from everyone, including me. I believed that not knowing whether I was having a boy or a girl would somehow compel me to push a little harder when the time came for labor. I don’t know if that’s altogether true, but I was pretty anxious to see if it was a boy or a girl that would come out of me. I may not have pushed any harder, but I will say I was probably the most shocked person in the room when our doctor announced we’d had a girl. I had been convinced I was having a boy, and somehow the sudden realization that my baby was a girl was enough to make her feel like a stranger. That only lasted until I laid eyes on her, of course, because the second I saw her gorgeous face I was hooked.
When my second pregnancy rolled around, I let my husband decide whether or not we would find out the gender. He opted for finding out, and I have to say that it was an entirely different experience. I thought I would be less anxious to go through labor since we already knew that we were having a boy, but when it came down to it I had just as much anticipation to hold him in my arms as I did with our first baby. There was definitely something great about not having to buy a bunch of yellow clothes for him since we knew that blue was a safe color (and besides, we had plenty of yellow clothes from the first pregnancy), and we had an easier time picking out a name since we could eliminate half of the baby names book.
If you want my opinion about whether or not you should find out your baby’s gender, I’m still on the fence. I would say that each experience was great in its own way…not knowing was pretty exciting, but knowing was a lot easier. I am of the opinion, however, that with the first baby it should be the mom’s choice because she’s the one carrying the baby and going through the whole labor thing. I’m a little biased, of course, but my husband agreed since he got to make the decision for the second pregnancy. If I had to choose one, though, I would have to say that finding out the gender of the baby right there in the delivery room is an experience that every mom should go through at least once.