Comments on: Who Knows More, You or Mother-in-law? http://blogs.babiesonline.com/parenting/who-knows-more-you-or-mother-in-law/ News & Information about parenting, pregnancy, and Babies Online's services Thu, 19 Nov 2009 19:40:33 -0700 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.6 hourly 1 By: Caroline http://blogs.babiesonline.com/parenting/who-knows-more-you-or-mother-in-law/comment-page-1/#comment-10997 Caroline Mon, 06 Oct 2008 15:52:29 +0000 http://blogs.babiesonline.com/?p=5772#comment-10997 After months of 'discussing' with either my mother or mother in law, various bits of advice they are so quick to give (how to get the babies to sleep, what to feed them, what they should be wearing, are they too cold/too hot, nap schedules, calls to their doctor don't let them do that etc etc et), I finally reached a point where I just not my head in agreement with whoever is giving the unsolicited advice. I smile and nod as if I am in agreement, when ultimately I will end up doing it my way! Passive agressive? Absolutely, but so much easier than debate, particulary due to the time committment of twins! After months of ‘discussing’ with either my mother or mother in law, various bits of advice they are so quick to give (how to get the babies to sleep, what to feed them, what they should be wearing, are they too cold/too hot, nap schedules, calls to their doctor don’t let them do that etc etc et), I finally reached a point where I just not my head in agreement with whoever is giving the unsolicited advice. I smile and nod as if I am in agreement, when ultimately I will end up doing it my way! Passive agressive? Absolutely, but so much easier than debate, particulary due to the time committment of twins!

]]> By: Surfer Jay http://blogs.babiesonline.com/parenting/who-knows-more-you-or-mother-in-law/comment-page-1/#comment-10967 Surfer Jay Sun, 05 Oct 2008 05:24:55 +0000 http://blogs.babiesonline.com/?p=5772#comment-10967 Advice can often be good to receive. But of course many people lack proper communication skills, (send em to therapy for a month) and do not know that giving advice is okay as opposed to forcing their views on someone and telling them they must do it. That's when it gets irritating. As you stated in your question, sometimes people do criticise regardless of how they say it. I personally have no problem with being assertive and/or stern with people when neccesary. But my wife struggles, so we have worked out that when she looks at me or gives me a hint, I come and rescue her and put my foot down to stop the insanity. Good topic! Surfer Jays last blog post..<a href="http://feeds.feedburner.com/~r/IHaveToWipeHisWhat/~3/409964127/mr-pants-having-parentals-few-blocks.html"></a> Advice can often be good to receive. But of course many people lack proper communication skills, (send em to therapy for a month) and do not know that giving advice is okay as opposed to forcing their views on someone and telling them they must do it. That’s when it gets irritating.

As you stated in your question, sometimes people do criticise regardless of how they say it. I personally have no problem with being assertive and/or stern with people when neccesary. But my wife struggles, so we have worked out that when she looks at me or gives me a hint, I come and rescue her and put my foot down to stop the insanity.

Good topic!

Surfer Jays last blog post..

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