No More Kids
First of all, allow me to let you in on a well-known fact: my husband and I do not plan on ever having another baby. We’re happy with the two children we’ve been blessed with, and thankfully I have the type of husband who only briefly winced at the thought of having a vasectomy and then went through the procedure like a champ. We knew that there was always a chance he could get the vasectomy reversed with a relatively good chance of it being successful…I only know this because he’s still pretty young so I asked the doctor, “If I walk outside after his procedure and I get hit by a bus and die and then my husband starts dating again and meets some woman who he falls in love with but she wants babies, can he get it reversed?” After a brief quizzical look and then a chuckle, my doctor assured me that there was a good chance my husband could someday be fruitful and multiply again.
A few months ago I had a procedure done called an endometrial ablation, which is medical-speak for getting the inside of the uterus cooked. The procedure decreases menstrual flow, which was just what I needed since the birth of my son had left me with really heavy flow every month. The doctor warned me that this procedure would mean I shouldn’t ever get pregnant again. Apparently I can get pregnant, but the highest likelihood is that it won’t be a viable pregnancy and could be quite dangerous for me. In other words, ever having another healthy pregnancy is not really an option for me.
Don’t get me wrong…I don’t intend on ever having another baby. My plan was always to have two kids – one boy and one girl – and luckily we were blessed with exactly that. I will admit to you, though, that sometimes when I see a newborn baby nestled in a mother’s arms I start to regret the steps my husband and I have taken to ensure that we never have another baby. That feeling of regret lasts for about a millisecond though, and then I come back to my senses and realize that most women are just wired to ooh and aah over babies, and the logical part of me knows that my daughter and son are quite enough for me, thank you very much.