Comments on: “Everything Changes”

By: Science-mom

Science-mom — Fri, 16 May 2008 12:05:28 +0000

@Dawn: If it`s any comfort to you, as soon as the baby is born, people will immediately start telling you “don`t worry, it will only get better.”

By: SciFi Dad

SciFi Dad — Fri, 16 May 2008 10:09:06 +0000

@Dawn:
I don’t know if this is what you’re going for as far as a positive response, but when people said stuff like that to me before my daughter was born, I generally replied with something along the lines of, “Really? Worse? Like, do they take the baby away? No? I still get to keep the baby? Well then that’s all that matters to me.”

@Russ & Science-mom:
Thanks for commenting. I appreciate it.

By: Science-mom

Science-mom — Fri, 16 May 2008 06:56:29 +0000

When we had our boys, we received a card that went like this:
“A BABY CHANGES EVERYTHING…EXCEPT ITS NAPPIES” I guess that said it all - although the friend who sent this added this after thought: Two babies will bring even more changes…hopefully they`ll learn to change each other`s nappies soon.

By: Dawn

Dawn — Fri, 16 May 2008 02:59:15 +0000

I’m excited about the changes to come, but, like you, I don’t know why people have to say, “Oh, just wait, EVERYTHING changes,” in that threatening, foreboding way. Especially since these are inevitably the same ** people who continuously bugged me and my husband by asking when we were going to have kids.

And, it’s terrible to say, but there’s really no positive response to their comment. The baby’s in there. It’s too late, anyway. It’s like, “OH, wow, you’re RIGHT! I’m glad you said something, because, you know, we hadn’t considered that before!”

I mean, my husband and I waited until we were married five years to have kids. Did they not think we *discussed* this? (And, if we hadn’t, and the baby did happen to be an accident… well, gee… their comment sure isn’t making things any better NOW!)

Sorry to rant. I think you hit a sore point here for me. But seriously, I’d love a good, positive response to inane comments like, “Oh, just you wait…it gets worse…” and the like.

By: russ

russ — Thu, 15 May 2008 14:46:29 +0000

I’ve certainly noticed some of the negatives that come with having a second child, but the positives by far out way any negatives (thus far). Any of the “oh wait, your life will change” non-sense that I toss out is usually for my entertainment.