Remembering The “Forgotten” Mothers on Mother’s Day
For many mothers, Mother’s Day is a day to be endured and survived, not celebrated. I learned this on Mother’s Day 2006. Our first born son had been stillborn and we’d buried him less than a month before. I remember going to church that day and noticing that a baby baptism ceremony had been planned for that day. I actually had to leave the service because I just wasn’t able to handle it.
Mother’s Day can be a difficult day for moms. I think of the older mother who buried her child and is helping to raise her grandchildren. I am reminded of my step mother, who loved and raised us after our mother’s untimely death. She never made a distinction between her biological children and her step-children. That’s a mom alright!
I also think of the many mothers with children in the military. Some of these mothers will spend their day worrying about their children. Perhaps some have gotten the call that no parent ever wants to get: they have been told that their child has made the ultimate sacrifice and given their life in service to their country.
For many years, I was a single mother of young children. Being alone on Mother’s Day was always depressing for me. One year, my friend from college called and invited me to spend the day with her family. Every year after that, my children and I would spend the day with her family. I remember those holiday celebrations with great fondness.
As you are planning your Mother’s Day activities this year, remember the “forgotten” mothers. Whether you send a card, give flowers, or thank them for their sacrifice, your efforts will be appreciated.