Look Before you Leap
When you make the decision to have no more kids, you have plenty of different options on how you can make sure that you won’t wind up pregnant again. There are surgeries for both women and men that will effectively end the chances of another pregnancy, but before you jump into something permanent you should consider a few things:
- Are you sure? Post-pregnancy hormones can make you say and do a lot of wacky things, and I know from personal experience that I uttered the words, “I’m never doing this again” more than once just because I was so incredibly tired. If you think there may be a chance that you’ll want another baby someday down the road, don’t take any drastic steps.
- Are you both sure? If you are in a committed relationship, this should be a mutual decision. One person shouldn’t bully the other person into ending the baby-making. It should be something that you both agree upon.
- Are you quite young? I knew that I was done with having babies after my second child, but by that point I was already in my thirties. Had I made the same decision in my early twenties I may have had to convince my doctors that yes, I was absolutely sure of this decision. As you get older life is inevitably going to change, and so will your wants and desires. If you’re relatively young then you may want to hold off on anything permanent.
- Talk to your doctor. There may be a bunch of different options available to you, some of which may be semi-permanent yet completely reversible if necessary. After all, there is more to this than vasectomies and hysterectomies.
Keep in mind that there is nothing wrong with making a decision to not have any more kids. It can be a painful decision, but if you’re anything like me you will also find it to be quite liberating.