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Married couple finds out they are twins

marriedcouplearetwins.jpgA married British couple recently found out they were twins separated at birth. When they found out the heart wrenching news, a court immediately annulled their marriage, but it hasn?t been reported yet how long the couple was married or involved. This discovery brings up issues surrounding the rights of adopted children and children conceived from donor eggs or sperm.

Many childless adults seek adoption or donors to help them become parents, but children might not learn their true origins.

The twins? sad story was revealed at a debate about human fertility and embryology law, adding to concerns raised about laws surrounding donor conception.

What is the right course of action? Parents have to consider how their child might feel if they knew they were conceived from a donor. On the other hand, traumatic situations like British couple?s might continue to happen if there isn?t full disclosure.

Adoption groups point out that today?s adoptions are much more open, and the twins are less likely to be separated now. But what about donor-conceived children? Is it fair to have the fact of their conception printed on their birth certificate (a public document)?

I think this issue brings up more questions than answers. Even if there are no adoptions or donors, many children have half-siblings they may never know about. Is it really something that government needs to get involved with? Or should it be left up to the parents?

As a single woman, I knew I wanted to have children one day, and I considered using a sperm bank. Though I didn?t choose that path to motherhood, I still know that my daughter may have siblings and cousins that neither of us will ever know about. Am I worried? Not really. There are billions of people in the world, so the likelihood she will ever marry a close relative is like finding a needle in a haystack.

What do you think? If you have an adopted child, are you concerned he may one day marry his sister? If you?ve used a donor egg or sperm, do you think it would be better for your child to know this information or not?


Guest
Kelly
7 years 6 months ago

I believe there are things that a couple should know before they are married.
I think we should return to having blood tests before marriage, so that couples know things like — if they are related-or if someone has AIDS.
It is not fair to anyone, when those kinds of surprises come up afterwards.

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Chris
8 years 2 months ago

I think they need to know, adopted or donor with age appropriate information.

Personally, I would not want to find out my mother/father/sibling was not biologically related to me because of some medical test.

Plus keep in mind that the family medical history needs to match the individual or at least it does if you want accurate health care. At some point they should be told. Its best if it comes from the parents.

Member
8 years 4 months ago

I strongly believe that adopted children should know that they are adopted.

However, I’m not sure about children conceived using sperm banks etec. Some may be thrilled that their mothers wanted them enough to do that, but others may not welcome this kind of news.

The dicision to tell or not will have to depend a number of factors.

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