Who Gets To Name Baby?
Now that I am officially 12 weeks pregnant, and everything seems to be OK, we’ve begun to think about names.
I remember as a young girl, playing with my dolls and giving them names. I asked my mother if she thought I might be able to name my children those same names when I grew up. She just smiled.
I can tell you that none of my children are named after my dolls. In fact, most of my children were named because they were neutral names, or names upon which my husband and I could agree. I never thought I’d name my children due to compromise, but it happened that way.
I remember that a bunch of “good names” got thrown out of the running simply because either my husband or I knew of someone nasty who had that name. Have you ever experienced this?
Last night, as we were driving home, my husband mentioned that he wanted to name our child a certain name if it was a boy. The name was a very old fashioned German name. Since we are both of German descent, he thought it was wonderful. Of course, this leads to another delicate subject: how to tell the love of your life that the name he is smitten with makes you feel nauseous? It’s a very sensitive subject to be sure.
My one friend said that she and her husband had come to a unique compromise. She got to name the children if they were girls, and he got to name them if they were boys. Although this worked for them, I’m not so sure I’d be happy about that compromise. I don’t think my husband would be either. One of my co-workers admitted to me that she told her husband outright that since she did the work of carrying and birthing the child, it was hers to name. Supposedly, he was OK with this reasoning and let her name all of their three children. Again, I don’t think my husband would go for that “compromise” either.
So for now, we are looking through baby books and baby name web pages, trying to find a name that is mostly acceptable to us both. The good news is that we have 6 more months to find a name! I think we can figure it out by then.