Second Baby Shower
Baby showers are about sharing the joy that a new baby brings to a family and a community, and a way for others to help the new parents prepare for the new arrival. So why is it that society’s etiquette seems to say that showers for a second baby are not acceptable?
We’re expecting baby #2. As such, my husband and I are debating and deliberating a number of things: baby names, how to help our first born adjust to not being the only baby any more, and whether it’s proper etiquette to have a baby shower when it’s not the first baby.
I think it depends on what your goal is for the shower. We want to have a second baby shower to share the joy and celebrate with our friends and family, whom we don’t get to see as often as we would like. Our idea of the shower would be a brunch or a casual barbecue, taking place on a sunny summer afternoon in our backyard or someone else’s, where we can sit back and just enjoy spending time with each other.
Instead of gifts, which we don’t really need, we might ask for a donation toward the second child’s college fund. However, some people just can’t imagine a shower without gifts. For them, we might suggest the following non-traditional shower gift ideas – in fact, they could even make unique shower theme ideas.
- Books. We can never get enough books. Guests can bring a copy of their favorite children’s book – whether from their own childhood or what they read to their own children – to give to the new baby.
- Freezer stock. Everyone brings a frozen casserole or other dish that we can stick in the freezer until the baby arrives, so that we can enjoy a hot, home-cooked meal every now and again.
- Savings bonds. An investment toward baby’s future.
- Memberships. A membership to the zoo, the city parks department for free admission, or the local Y can be a great help to new parents.