Conquering the 3 Woes of the Terrible Twos
Whether you’re a new mom or a mom for the second or third time, when those notorious terrible twos creep around the corner, it can bring along a case of the mommy-blues. You may not know what to expect even after reading all the parenting books and taking all the wonderful advice your mother can offer. Each toddler is different. For the first year or so of your child’s life, you have coddled and groomed that baby. Now your little bundle of joy has transformed into a little bundle of personality! Here are a few tips and advice on conquering the 3 woes of the Terrible Twos:
1 – Potty Training
Potty training is that hurdle that every parent and toddler must jump. In the beginning, your enthusiasm and excitement for the new milestone your child is preparing to achieve will be at an all time high. You purchase videos and books and a cute little potty seat for your toddler and you’re all set. Each child is different and each mother’s potty training experience varies.
Advice: The best time to potty train your toddler is when they show signs of controlling their bowels and bladder, i.e. after staying dry throughout the night. Make sure your toddler is emotionally ready to potty train. Avoid training during uncooperative stages and encourage your child with positive reinforcement. Most importantly, know that you and your child will eventually get to the finish line. It can become discouraging at times, especially when your child has frequent accidents and other kids of similar age are fully trained. Eventually, you will clear this hurdle.
2 – Tantrums
We’ve all been the onlooker at some point watching as a blushing mother in the grocery store struggles to assert her control over the screaming, rolling, and kicking toddler. And now…you’re that mom! Tantrums can come unexpectedly and it’s easy to give into the desire to avoid drawing more attention to yourself by raising your voice and putting on the disciplinarian face.
Advice: The best way to handle tantrums is to ignore the onlookers. Don’t be concerned with how you look in front of people by putting on the meek, librarian voice and “asking” your child to behave accordingly. Your toddler won’t respect you this way and may walk over you in public places. Be as stern and serious as you would be at home so that your toddler knows that mommy means business. One way to eliminate tantrums is to keep your word. If little Billy knows that mommy never buys him any candy at the check-out when he misbehaves, then he will take heed of the consequences of his behavior. Never give your child what they want when they are screaming for it. You want to show your child that tantrums are not rewarded; good behavior is rewarded.
3 – Testing Boundaries
Toddlers love to test the boundaries while in the Terrible Twos. With new-found mobility, toddlers are full of adventure and the desire to explore. That curiosity is what makes them want to touch when mommy says, “Don’t touch!”
Advice: Unfortunately, toddlers sometimes learn from experience rather than instruction, though we prefer it the other way around. After a few bruises and scratches, they will learn to listen to mommy’s warnings and instructions to avoid dangerous places and activities.
Hopefully, you will find these tips helpful in your journey through the Terrible Twos. You will experience some of the woes of the Terrible Twos, but most importantly, you will find that the Terrible Twos aren’t so terrible. Enjoy the journey and cherish each moment with your tiny toddler because they are growing quickly.
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