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Co-sleeping: Pros and Cons

Co-sleeping. Some parents of babies (and in a few cases, toddlers) swear by it, and others swear to never do it. Whichever side of the fence you sit, it can become a heated topic. Here are some thoughts for and against co-sleeping:

  • babies tend to sleep more soundly when cuddled with a parent
  • breastfeeding is much more convenient
  • additional opportunities for family bonding


  • some believe co-sleeping results in children who cannot self-soothe
  • parents lose privacy and intimacy
  • parents sleep lees soundly because of the fear of rolling over on their child
  • some children are active sleepers, making it difficult for the parents to get a good night’s sleep
  • 75% of all SIDS related deaths are caused by babies sleeping face down on a soft surface (which many adult beds are, especially with the recent trend towards “pillow top” mattresses)

Personally, with our daughter, we started out with her sleeping in a cradle. Eventually she and my wife co-slept while I took refuge in the guest room, mainly due to my wife’s condition post-c-section. Once my wife was able to get herself out of bed and retrieve the baby herself, we transitioned her to her own crib. Now, it is something that happens at 5am when she wakes up and our choices are co-sleep or get up for the day.

Source: ‘Family bed’ has pluses, minuses via

What are your thoughts on co-sleeping? Did you co-sleep with your children? Did breastfeeding play a part in your decision?

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7 years 4 months ago
Dear Mommyinde, I respect your position, but I would like to point out to you some rather obvious information about cosleeping. 1. I don’t subscribe to the idea that bonding can only occur when cosleeping happens. Likewise, I don’t buy into the idea that if my child cosleeps with me now, he’ll never want to sleep by himself. 2. The unsafe cosleeping arrangements you write about are probably a minority of people. I agree entirely that people need to be mindful of their bedding before they cosleep. There are a number of ways to do this: put your mattress directly… Read more »
7 years 9 months ago
Parents need to be very mindful in making the decision to co-sleep. I recently had a position that required me to be part of a state’s child death review team. Many of our infants who were born health but died under the age of 1 year, all died to unsafe sleeping environments. In one month we, reviewed about a half dozen sleep-related deaths- none of which were in a crib! Although SIDS have a defintion (unexplained, sudden death of an infant under 1 year and older than 1 month), it’s rather subjective in diagnosing. It depends on the coroner. Some… Read more »

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7 years 10 months ago

Our son is too fidgety to sleep with us. We did let him sleep in our bed someitimes, but it’s not comfortable for any of us.

7 years 10 months ago
I’ve never been against co-sleeping – I always have looked at it with the ‘whatever works’ mindset. I napped with Julia when she was young, but never slept with her through the night. She just didn’t need it – she’s always been a very independent sleeper and there was really no need. But with Oliver, we co-slept. He slept beside my bed in the bassinette when he was a baby and when he got older he slept with me in the bed. He had some issues with bowel movements when he was a baby and he was also a very… Read more »
7 years 10 months ago
My kids have been opposite on this one. Matt only slept when he was snuggled with us (or in his swing). So, it was co-sleeping or losing our minds. He transitioned to a crib around 18 months – pretty much when he gave up nursing. He slept a lot sounder, but it was also around the time he started daycare. I think he was so exhausted he’d sleep anywhere. But, from the start Chloe has been a good sleeper. She rarely sleeps in the same bed as me – just on the odd occasion we both fall asleep when she’s… Read more »
7 years 10 months ago

My firstborn was not cut out for co-sleeping. Even for short catnaps he always slept better on his own. His sister on the other hand sleeps much longer between mom and dad. Now that she is a year old she sleeps in her crib (in a room she shares with her big brother) until 4 or 5 in the morning when she wakes up and comes to cuddle in our bed for another hour or two each morning.

Melissa H
7 years 10 months ago
Oddly I was very against co-sleeping until I came home with our little bundle… I spent a week or so of nights wishing that she would just stay asleep when she was put down. One night out of pure desperation my husband brought her to bed with us. I murmured something sleepily about how bad that was and then slept beautifully all night long with brief pauses to nurse. 10 months later we still have a bundle, albeit a larger one, in the bed and we still are happy with the arrangement. When will she move to her own bed…… Read more »
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