i had the MOST beautiful, fat, charming, sweet baby girl ever. and 8 years later she’s still perfect (and smart to boot!)

with the second one, i wanted another girl (cause sisters have a bond right?); my (ex)husband wanted a boy . . . we had a boy. and he is the most funny, sensitive, handsome , charming little man ever - even almost 6 years later.

and though i didn’t get what i wanted BOTH times, i got exactly what i meant to get . . . and so will you and your family. =)

(*BTW, my family immigrated (or is it emmigrated) to the US from korea and our family’s name dies if my younger brother doesn’t have a boy. my older brother had 2 girls. my sister and i have one of each, but the boys have their father’s names. i’m going to court this month to change my children’s names to hyphenated versions of both my and their father’s last names. i feel your pressure - but not like my younger brother does!)

Our second child is a girl (and we couldn’t be happier). We did the, it would be cheaper to have another boy, but one of each would be great too, thing. I guess I was hoping for another boy, built in playpals and all. But now that we have one of each, I don’t think I’ll be treating her any differently than her brother.

Now if she insists on tea parties and the like, I’ll suck it up and deal.

On my side of the family, if it’s a girl it could be the first granddaughter for my parents, or it could have a female cousin it’s age which would be great (my sister is due in 3 weeks with her 3rd child–not sure if it’s boy or girl). If it’s a boy, my parents will either have 4 grandsons or 3 grandsons (based on what my sister has).

I “feel like” I’m having a girl, but we decided not to find out. I like the element of surprise, plus it’s our first child and we plan to have more so I don;t want everything to be gendered (women love to buy girl clothes and I wouldn’t want to get all clothes for a shower instead of the big stuff I really need). Originally, my husband wanted to know the gender, but the argument I used against it seems to work…my opinion was that I didn’t want to start attributing traits to our baby/child based on it’s gender before we even had a chance to meet it (like if he’s a boy he’ll love trucks and tractors as much as my nephews do, or if she’s a girl she’ll be into princesses).

It’s no secret to me that you had hoped for a boy. Who wouldn’t with the pressure that your Dad has put on you.

I do believe that everyone does truly want a happy and healthy baby, so when that is the answer that is given, sometimes I feel like it is a cop out. Not to say that people must have a preference because some people probably legitimately don’t.

Truthfully, I don’t know if I had/have a preference. In my head, ever since I can remember (and that is when I was quite young and had no business thinking about having kids), I wanted one of each. Probably because I always wanted a brother.

I agree with you. One of each would be nice. It would even us out, make your Dad happy, etc. etc. But, at the same time, a little sister for the bunny would be a good thing as well.

In the end, it isn’t up to us and it doesn’t really matter because we will enjoy and love them just as much no matter what!

I’m looking forward to our ultrasound!

This time, I was torn. A boy would be great because I’d have one of each, like you said. But having a girl would mean my daughter would have a sister, and hopefully have a bond similar to the one I have with my sister - something that surpasses all friendships. And again, at around 10 weeks, I KNEW I was having a boy, and at 20 weeks, the ultrasound confirmed this yet again.

And though I’m sure I would have been equally as thrilled with a girl and been able to watch my daughters be sisters, I was excited more than I thought I would be to have a son. That one day will be a man. A good man. And I know that because his father is a good man - kind and generous, thoughtful and strong, humble and supportive. And in my opinion, the world could always use more of him.

I will have one of each. I am thrilled beyond words. But if this baby were to be a girl? I’d be thankful that I could raise two women to be strong and assertive, proud and modest, grateful and patient. Because no matter the gender of our children, we want to give them the best of us, don’t we?

A girl would have been easier, both my wife and I knew what to expect with a daughter. But deep down, I kind of wanted a son. A son, to carry on the family name, to play and watch sports with, to introduce to the wonderful, yet geeky, worlds of Lord of the Rings, Star Trek, and Star Wars (as an aside both my children WILL initially watch the SW movies in order of release so the surprises and plot twists are in the right spots).

To temper my expectations, I convinced myself we were having another girl. It wouldn’t be a bad thing, girls adore there daddies, girls like sports and geeky stuff, too, the bond between sisters would be great for both of them, etc. And we’d be able to reuse everything, save some money. I was so convinced it would be another girl, I was actually totaly surprised when the sonogram tech told us it was a boy.

Would I have been happy with another girl? Yes. Am I happy I have a son? Yes. In the end, the most important thing is for both the mother and child to be healthy, happy, and safe throughout the pregnancy and delivery. Boy or girl, you’ll love the baby just the same.

But we were pressured to carry on the family name too and I suppose that factored in a bit to my guilt.

The last name dies here and so it goes. I think this name has had hundreds of years of use so it’s probably about time to retire it.

I hated people asking those tacky and nosy questions, too.

I hated it worse when they went “Ohhh that’s too bad, maybe better luck next time” upon learning we were having another girl.