Comments on: So you want to be a SAHM? http://blogs.babiesonline.com/parenting/so-you-want-to-be-a-sahm/ News & Information about parenting, pregnancy, and Babies Online's services Thu, 28 Aug 2008 18:04:03 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6 By: Babies Online Blog » Blog Archive » How to Navigate Care By Grandma http://blogs.babiesonline.com/parenting/so-you-want-to-be-a-sahm/#comment-3184 Babies Online Blog » Blog Archive » How to Navigate Care By Grandma Thu, 27 Mar 2008 18:02:00 +0000 http://blogs.babiesonline.com/?p=95#comment-3184 [...] worried about the costs of alternative sitters or daycare, take a hard look at your budget. Read this article for tips on how to be a stay at home mom or dad, or cut back on some expenses so you can afford a [...] [...] worried about the costs of alternative sitters or daycare, take a hard look at your budget. Read this article for tips on how to be a stay at home mom or dad, or cut back on some expenses so you can afford a [...]

]]> By: MrsH http://blogs.babiesonline.com/parenting/so-you-want-to-be-a-sahm/#comment-395 MrsH Thu, 17 Jan 2008 16:26:52 +0000 http://blogs.babiesonline.com/?p=95#comment-395 Hi Christianne, thanks for the kudos! Hi Christianne, thanks for the kudos!

]]> By: Christianne http://blogs.babiesonline.com/parenting/so-you-want-to-be-a-sahm/#comment-215 Christianne Tue, 08 Jan 2008 18:26:55 +0000 http://blogs.babiesonline.com/?p=95#comment-215 Bravo! This decision couldn't have been an easy one. Moving and getting a new job (just for hubby in this case) are some huge sacrificese, but like you said if it feels like the best option for your family just follow your gut and do it. Bravo! This decision couldn’t have been an easy one. Moving and getting a new job (just for hubby in this case) are some huge sacrificese, but like you said if it feels like the best option for your family just follow your gut and do it.

]]> By: MrsH http://blogs.babiesonline.com/parenting/so-you-want-to-be-a-sahm/#comment-22 MrsH Thu, 20 Dec 2007 20:19:30 +0000 http://blogs.babiesonline.com/?p=95#comment-22 Hi Carmen. Yes,I included a link to the study so that others could read it and decide for themselves. I'm glad your daughter thrived in daycare! The ladies that take care of my daughter now are wonderful, but my heart is telling me I need to be with her full-time. My main issue is to be the one to guide and mold her during this critical three-year period. After a year or two, I will evaluate the situation. I think it's critical for parents to not always go by studies and "experts" but to listen to their intuition and to their child, like you did. Hi Carmen. Yes,I included a link to the study so that others could read it and decide for themselves. I’m glad your daughter thrived in daycare! The ladies that take care of my daughter now are wonderful, but my heart is telling me I need to be with her full-time. My main issue is to be the one to guide and mold her during this critical three-year period. After a year or two, I will evaluate the situation. I think it’s critical for parents to not always go by studies and “experts” but to listen to their intuition and to their child, like you did.

]]> By: carmen http://blogs.babiesonline.com/parenting/so-you-want-to-be-a-sahm/#comment-21 carmen Thu, 20 Dec 2007 19:52:56 +0000 http://blogs.babiesonline.com/?p=95#comment-21 I applaud your resolve to work hard at achieving a SAHM status. It's no easy feat and an admirable goal. I can see where you've investigated day care and determined it to be a less than optimal choice for you, however I hope that readers don't take this to mean that daycare is always negative. There are some extremely valuable and positive aspects of good day care. The referenced article goes on to explain that the negative effects were NOT the majority finding and that some of the studies didn't compare against a control group. Ironically, I had the opposite reaction to day care than you. Pre-pregnancy, I felt strongly that, despite having achieved a moderate level of success in my career to date, I wanted to shift my focus to raising children. I did need a few months of working and sending my daughter to day care to prepare for this. What I learned was that despite my tears and loneliness, my daughter was thriving in day care. She is (unlike her mommy) an extremely social baby who adores being around other babies, learning from the examples set by older babies, and the affection and attention from her teachers. Much to my surprise, instead of working to not have to work anymore, I now work to support my day care expenses. I would encourage families to consider the choices that are right for their situation and pursue whole heartedly that option --- both come with challenges and deserve support and respect. I applaud your resolve to work hard at achieving a SAHM status. It’s no easy feat and an admirable goal. I can see where you’ve investigated day care and determined it to be a less than optimal choice for you, however I hope that readers don’t take this to mean that daycare is always negative. There are some extremely valuable and positive aspects of good day care. The referenced article goes on to explain that the negative effects were NOT the majority finding and that some of the studies didn’t compare against a control group.
Ironically, I had the opposite reaction to day care than you. Pre-pregnancy, I felt strongly that, despite having achieved a moderate level of success in my career to date, I wanted to shift my focus to raising children. I did need a few months of working and sending my daughter to day care to prepare for this. What I learned was that despite my tears and loneliness, my daughter was thriving in day care. She is (unlike her mommy) an extremely social baby who adores being around other babies, learning from the examples set by older babies, and the affection and attention from her teachers. Much to my surprise, instead of working to not have to work anymore, I now work to support my day care expenses.

I would encourage families to consider the choices that are right for their situation and pursue whole heartedly that option — both come with challenges and deserve support and respect.

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